It’s not just olive oil -– women, too, now, are expected to come with a label that reads Extra Extra Virgin.
Looks to me like these girls don’t know what the authority figures around them expect them to do –- or not do –- to remain “pure”. I’m eerily reminded of the 1950s, in which . . . people figured, I don’t know, if they didn’t mention it, the kids wouldn’t find out about it.
Now there’s a brand-new book all about the first.
And in confluence sufficient to make ripening our conversation at this moment seem almost cosmically ordained, I opened this morning’s NYT to see their magazine cover story, “Good Sex” that illuminates her second sense in which we can understand extra virginity’s sublimity and scandal:
“Teaching Good Sex”
By LAURIE ABRAHAM
Introducing pleasure to the peril of sex education.
It starts with a whole other metaphor for how teens think and learn about sex — baseball — which it’s unlikely FavD will be writing about for you, because she’s not a big fan. So I guess we need homeschool-parent diehard Red Sox fans, like JJ (“what does it mean to girls, not just guys, to “throw like a girl?”) and Crimson Wife and Chris O’Donnell, to ahem, get this ball rolling instead.
His goal was to prompt the students . . . to examine the assumptions buried in the venerable metaphor.
. . .In its breadth, depth and frank embrace of sexuality as, what Vernacchio calls, a “force for good” — even for teenagers — this sex-ed class may well be the only one of its kind in the United States.
“There is abstinence-only sex education, and there’s abstinence-based sex ed,” said Leslie Kantor, vice president of education for Planned Parenthood Federation of America. “There’s almost nothing else left in public schools.”
Who is this creep talking sex as sport to kids in high school?
“When God was passing out talents,” he likes to say, “I got ease in talking about sex.”
But any plan of God’s, whom Vernacchio, a practicing Catholic, often references, was nudged along by two earthly happenings.
“As a little kid,” Vernacchio said, “I got pegged as a good public speaker, so I started narrating all the school plays and reading at church; I got over the fear of speaking really early.” Then, around age 12, he started to research sex . . .
p.s. See also Snook’s Parenting sex and parenthood discussion:
I would consider myself a failure as a responsible parent if a child of mine grew up believing that the differences between a good choice and a less good choice are ever clear, or to be decreed by whichever authority claims most direct dominion over their private affairs at any stage of life, from a teacher, preacher, boss, peer or government agent to the nursing home staff on the other end of their lives. Nor would I want them to parent my grandchildren to choose to please authority first, and themselves later.
If choice isn’t deeper than that, it isn’t choice at all.