Six Degrees of Good, Good Vibrations

25 10 2006

If you believe every person on on the planet is connected by a mere six degrees of separation, then maybe like me, you also believe good books can connect every important idea in at least six different ways? This week I’m reading yet another book that connects education and leadership issues, both for individuals and institutions. A management site here explains how the author views leadership as six styles of effective resonance with other people’s feelings:

In the view of Goleman, good leaders are effective because they create resonance.

Resonance comes from the Latin word resonare, to resound.
Effective leaders are attuned to other people’s feelings and move them in a positive emotional direction. They speak authentically about their own values, direction and priorities and resonate with the emotions of surrounding people. Under the guidance of an effective leader, people feel a mutual comfort level.

Resonance comes naturally to people with a high degree of emotional intelligence (self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management) but involves also intellectual aspects.

Creation of resonance can be done in six ways, leading to Six Leadership Styles. Typically, the most effective leaders can act according to and skillfully switch between the various styles depending on the situation.

My mentor and favorite professional colleague ever (hi Doug, are your ears burning?) lived and breathed intelligent leadership by emotional resonance, and wisely used his leadership to inspire and cultivate leadership in others. In everyone, not just those with titles and authority and followers. He connected with everybody, and he wanted everybody connected.

This isn’t what he called it, but it’s what he modeled, what he meant and how he did it — he used to remind us that resonance was what it took to make the world habitable for humans and that it was everybody’s job, something we all do for each other every time we interact, even just saying hello in the hallway.

He would tell Don Clifton’s “Story of the Bucket and the Dipper” at leadership kick-offs and wrap-ups,

Cover - how full is your bucket?a story so powerfully integrated with its own character that, as we enjoyed its traditional telling as a rapt audience of comrades, it had the seemingly hypnotic effect of synching us with each other AND resonating within our individual bodies, brains and souls to synch them up inside each of us, too. Like a tune-up. Or maybe that’s too mechanical, can’t quite resonate. Food for the soul then — this wasn’t any kind of “religious” but it certainly tasted spiritual.

Now that we know and can prove more about the power of this story than we could 20 years ago, I hope home education advocates and Thinking Parents of all styles will begin to connect neurological science of human relationships to leadership and learning issues throughout our culture. (How stupid would we need to be NOT to??)

Maybe then in all our degrees of diversity and separation, we may begin to resonate with good vibrations and connect on the dance floor, or at least at the buffet. 🙂

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25 10 2006
misedjj

Say the magic word and win a hundred dollars —

RELATIONSHIPS!

(and you get a big bucket of stale popcorn as a bonus, if you’re old enough –or culturally quirky enough — to know on which TV personality’s moustached lips the above phrase belongs.)

25 10 2006
misedjj

More thoughts on good vibrations to help each other politically and personally:

As our new century’s political storms rage on and the light is dying, we can rage, rage back against it, and against each other. We certainly have the right to live our mutual lives as satire in the streets.

Tolstoy offers us the more enlightened lesson of problem-solving in a storm – we might lay freely and joyfully upon each other as individuals, without regard for class or colors as the storm rages on without, and though I myself may die in that moment, I nevertheless have it in my own personal power to choose meaning, to set the warmth of human contact aglow . . .
for good instead of evil.

25 10 2006
misedjj

Harvard cognitive psychologist and leadership scholar Howard Gardner writes about the same thinking, feeling and learning ideas, how we can operate our minds and spirits in more integrated fashion for individual and public good, in several books including, Changing Minds; Extraordinary Minds; and Leading Minds: an Anatomy of Leadership.

He even ties all these ideas directly into public schooling in The Disciplined Mind.

All good stuff imo I suppose, because it RESONATES with me . . . 🙂

25 10 2006
misedjj

Culture – this is from an older interview with author Goleman but interesting –

“Can you say a little bit about your next project? What are you working on now?

I’m working on an article (with Warren Bemis at Harvard’s JFK School of Government) arguing for a culture of candor in organizations, to safeguard against groupthink, blind spots and the kind of collusions that led to the collapse of Enron and the other corporate scandals, unchecked pedophilia in the Catholic church, as well as the Columbia and Challenger shuttle accidents.”

26 10 2006
Could Smart Gas Work on Kids? « Cocking A Snook!

[…] UPDATE One – DO YOU THINK KIDS SPOIL LIKE APPLES? Then read this for an unschooling mom’s version of the Bucket and Dipper Story. Posted in Culture, Family Values, Institutions and Individuals, Power of Story, Research and Science, School is to Food, Sustainable unschooling, Shopping/consumerism | […]

6 11 2006
Political Pandering Ain’t Poetry–or Public Education « Cocking A Snook!

[…] If he permanently rearranged cultural landscapes with his personal work, but did it mysteriously and unquantifiably, in fact quite pointedly without facts and clear definitions and cross-tabulated statistical correlations, and without campaigning, power-brokering, infringing on others or getting involved in politics in any way, was that leadership, and how highly do we value it? […]

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