Favorite Daughter Officially Finishes Home Education

10 12 2007

and it was anticlimactic, as external milestones should be, I guess.

Back in school administrator life I once graduated a public school kid posthumously, against or at least outside of the legislative and executive rules — obviously he couldn’t satisfy the attendance requirements for his senior credits after perishing in a spring motorcycle accident — but this is a first for me in interpreting the rules of “home education.”

I feel like it should feel more significant than it does. Maybe that’s why School does so much of what it does, so that it can feel like something is happening that matters? 🙂


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11 12 2007
Lynn

I remember when my son “finished” his home schooling. While helping him move from home to his first apartment, however, I realized that he didn’t know how to read a map as well as he should. (Complete panic.) What else did I forget to teach him! A part of me wanted to scoop him up and bring him home for more “schooling.” These moments are really pretty interesting to ponder, aren’t they?

11 12 2007
NanceConfer

There are a lot of these supposed special occasions that I am having more and more difficulty getting excited about. Christmas is right around the corner and, really, don’t we bake cookies whenever we want to anyway? Don’t we get what we want when we need it and can afford it? Don’t we see way too much of every single family member? 🙂

A lot of the excuses for Christmas, if you’re doing the secular thing, just don’t hold up for my unschooling, every day’s a break so we’re not on winter break, family.

We’ll do the lights and a tree and a few gifts for friends and the kids but . . .

Nance

11 12 2007
JJ

Yes! That’s it, and it does apply to Christmas (and Thanksgiving, etc) too.

I took Young Son in the car with me to get milk after dark, because I thought we could check out the holiday lights in the neighborhood. We were having fun until we passed a big house with a giant CROSS all lit up in the front yard, and I was shocked. I’ve never seen that before at Christmas — isn’t that an Easter thing? — and it really puzzled me, and then made me angry. (Mangers and animals and stars in December, that’s how your story goes!) Like I’ve been playing along and being a good sport, going with the flow and finally I’ve just been pushed too far culturally and governmentally, by people who can’t even keep their own stories straight, much less let me have mine.

I think that’s how I got about school in the end (or the beginning, depending on where a new unschooler counts from) — too much, too nonsensical, too pointless if not counterproductive, and so glad to be out of it! Now back-to-school time for example, is authentic for us because of the changing of the seasons and rhythms but not another shopping occasion decreed by government (part of why Congressional manipulation of Daylight Saving Time all the way into the holiday period annoys me, I think.)

12 12 2007
JJ

Hi Lynn –
Ponder is a good word for my main gear. 🙂

For me as both lifelong schooler and lifestyle unschooler, the huge change in becoming a parent myself was knowing I knew nothing, and not having my mom or grandmom to guide me in those early days. So, “parent education” was immediate for me and meant education of parents, not education BY parents. I gave myself a crash course in each stage of development, learning many things the hard way but having great fun and then just as I’d get comfortable, her next level was pushing my own education forward faster than it could travel, and I would race ahead with the wind in my hair, unable to see around the curves (or read the map — Lynn, have you had a map this whole time you weren’t sharing?? I need a tutorial and never mind who gets the official credits!)

What I’m feeling now is still that — whoops, time for me to learn a bunch of new stuff about parenting this incredible young woman without even the tenuous “frame” of home education we’ve had for 12 years. It hadn’t occurred to me to ponder whether she needs to know stuff she doesn’t know yet because if I still do, then surely she must, and always will . . . 😉

12 12 2007
alasandra

Congrats to Favourite Daughter on finishing her homeschooling journey.

I remember when Shining Celebi finished his. We really didn’t do much to mark the occasion, but I think what we did do had meaning for him.

I am so tired of the crash commercialism of Christmas & Easter and to some extent Thanksgiving (thankfully we aren’t expected to buy people presents for that holiday yet). Some idiot around here was spouting how the atheist were trying to steal Christmas by forcing stores to sell Holiday Trees instead of Christmas Trees and by having Holiday Sales instead of Christmas Sales. I hate to break it to him, but if that is all Christmas means to him he LOST the true meaning of Christmas a long time ago and nobody had to steal it from him.

12 12 2007
JJ

Hi Alasandra —
Good point about Thanksgiving not having presents, but the family feast thing doesn’t fit our little family of grazers who are already together here unschooling. The public does spend a LOT of money on airline tickets, ritual foods and other holiday trappings. Plus I think I read during October, that Halloween is getting to be the second most commercial American holiday although it doesn’t involve gift-buying , either.

About meaning rather than money, I’ll bet the giant Christmas cross here was put up by someone just like your local spouter. As we seek to define ourselves and others (as in make meaning explicit and definite) everything becomes more extreme and polarized, less and less “right” or “true” — by my lights, anyway.

There are no aliens kidnapping us for weird experiments; there’s no gay conspiracy to destroy marriage or take over public schools and turn kids into homosexuals; and there is no atheist plot to steal Christmas from those who stole it themselves from the pagans. There’s money and power to be had though, from peddling these false specters to gullible fundamentalists, to keep them mobilized politically against common enemies rather than quarreling among themselves.

12 12 2007
alasandra

I love this
there is no atheist plot to steal Christmas from those who stole it themselves from the pagans

And you are so right, the so call Christian Holidays were stolen from the Pagans, but try pointing that out to a Fundamentalist Christian. I read somewhere that the Virgin Birth was stolen from Mithras.

Ah well…………………………..it’s time for me to get back to grading Advanced Mathematics. I wouldn’t mind if someone wanted to steal it from me.

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