“We’d Have Homeschooled Him, Our Boy Would Still Be Alive”

18 12 2008

“We would have home schooled him or taken him to another psychologist,” said [dad] Don King. “If we would have known, our boy would have never been in that room. He would still be alive.”



6 responses

18 12 2008

I think (I may even know) that many kids would still be alive today, had they been homeschooled.

18 12 2008

That’s awful. Here in our tiny town, they have a seclusion room. I’m betting most people didn’t know about it (I certainly didn’t), before they tried to arrest a mother on charges of truancy after she pulled her autistic child out of school to homeschool him because of this room. It’s disgusting. Since the school has no ability to justify its use of this room, it is pursuing the truancy charges to throw the heat off themselves. Ah, but she shouldn’t have gone to the paper. They weren’t doing anything until then. *sigh*

26 12 2008
Mrs. C

JJ, Oh, my goodness, thank you!!!



It happened to us. Too many times. It’s common practice here in Missouri. It’s even written up in the student handbook as a “recovery room.” Most parents couldn’t give a rip b/c their kid isn’t “bad.”


BTW, I came over to comment on the psychology article you referenced on Dana’s blog. I found it semi-true but also amusing. Here, religion is supposed to be the opiate of the masses, but all down the sidebars of the article are tons of ads for prescription meds! LOL

But it’s a thought that has occurred to me before. When churches support missionaries, they’ll ONLY underwrite ones from their denomination, etc. Which, I guess, fine. This way you at least know they believe what you do and etc. But when I consider giving to charity, all my money doesn’t go into “Brand-name” church’s pot. :] Just FWIW.

26 12 2008

Favorite Daughter’s early-20s boyfriend (bright, independent, now fully employed and self-supporting in government technology consulting) went to public school and was once lumped in with “special” services for kids who were different.

She wrote about it here:

Let me begin by explaining that Calvin is one of the smartest people I know. Like a lot of kids who are smart and know it, Calvin spent a lot of time in school being: 1) bored and 2) kind of a jerk to everyone who was less intelligent, including the teachers. He was also a very excitable and active kid, and, as near as I can tell, spent much of his childhood being scraped off the ceiling.

Through a series of murky circumstances that I characterize as the tragic misunderstanding typical of our school system and which he prefers not to talk about, he wound up in remedial classes which were little more than child warehouses. I won’t detail the horrors endured there, but the high point of his reaction to it was being sent home with a referral reading “caused a major student uprising”. . .

26 12 2008

//caused a major student uprising”. . .//

I would have considered that the highlight of my high school career! Anybody can be disruptive. The motivate enough followers to get qualified as “major” takes real talent.

26 12 2008
Mrs. C

LOL poor Calvin! I just read that post and was glad for the special-ed kids who had him in their class. Bet he helped them make some changes!! Have you ever read Amanda Baggs? VERY intelligent, able to express herself in print, but non-verbal and autistic, so her school “experiences” were awful. She has some um, not so flattering things to say about “special needs” education herself.

I’m so, so glad we’re able to homeschool Elf. I wish there were a way to integrate some “social” aspect in to that, though. It is very hard for us. I know the socialization thing is a stereotype, but when you’re dealing with autism, well, you get quirky kids. Loveable, but quirky. So far all our efforts have been rather disastrous.

Anyway, I speak out against these “seclusion rooms” whenever we can. I’m truly not bitter about the experience because it brought my Elf home and so many good things came out of *that* decision, but I talk about it whenever I can because I feel it’s an important part of the homeschool “debate” if you will. There really are kids out there suffering this treatment ALL. THE. TIME. And THAT part upsets me. That part makes me distrust public education and etc. etc.

Thanks for letting me share my thoughts on this because as you can tell it’s an issue very close to my heart.

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